Nour Solo: How To Be THE Girl Part 2

Are you ready to become the girl of your dreams? Break free from societal norms and trends as we embark on a transformative journey of self-discovery and personal style. Our founder Nour Hassan guides you through cultivating a unique aesthetic that speaks to your individuality. Forget TikTok trends; let's focus on building a wardrobe and lifestyle that align with your genuine self. Whether you're drawn to patterns, block colors, or minimalism, we’ll emphasize living authentically and independently in a world that's constantly connected.

• Importance of detachment for individuality
• Curating a personal style that reflects your true self
• The Artist's Way: nurturing creativity through self-dates
• Journaling with morning pages for clarity
• Waking up early to set the tone for your week
• Power of silence and listening
• Curating life by surrounding yourself with inspirational people
• The necessity of being your authentic self over societal expectations

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Transcript

How to Be the Girl

Speaker 1 0:08

Welcome to the Curation , a show for the culturally curious . This is your host , noor Hassan . Each week , I'll guide you through a curated edit of the finest in art , fashion , design , culture , luxury , wellness , tech and more . This is your go-to space for discovering trailblazing ideas , untold stories and meaningful conversations with innovators and creators who are shaping our world . There's no gatekeeping here , so sit back , tune in and let's discover only the best together , together . Hey guys , welcome to the Curated by Noor podcast .

Speaker 1 0:55

This solo episode is especially for you guys , but it's mainly for the girls . Actually , this one is the how to be the girl episode up . You guys wanted a part part two , so now I have some notes on my phone that I'm gonna run through now with you guys on how to be the girl . Okay , this episode is one of my favorites that I ever recorded and it starts with a really important point . This point is something that really it's not easy , but if you can master it , then you're on your way . The first thing is detachment , the most important thing if you're trying to be the girl of your dreams , to try to build your character , to be unique , which is really difficult in Yemen , because now we have TikTok and everyone looks the same and dresses the same and talks the same and has the same makeup and everything is the same . And trust me when I tell you this is not attractive to guys , because at the end of the day like I'm sorry if a guy wants to pick you out out of a group of girls , he's going to look and see that you're the exact same as every single other one .

Speaker 1 1:52

How is that a differentiating point ? The very first thing I want you to do is go back and think to yourself what is my personal style ? Honestly , I went through a phase where I was very much into sort of eccentric dressing . I liked being maximalist , I liked that sort of vibe , and now I'm more into my minimalist era . But this does not mean that I try to follow the trends of the times . I just feel like that's what makes me happy and makes me more comfortable . But I think the very first thing to get down is your aesthetic . Then let's be real . Looks do matter and the way you present yourself matters .

Speaker 1 2:31

But my main , main and first point about how to be the girl is to curate your wardrobe . Figure out what you like . Like , what is it that you like ? Patterns me personally . You will never find me in patterns , but maybe you you like block colors , monochrome , maybe you're more of a tomboy , maybe you like I don't know dresses . Whatever it is . You need to figure out an aesthetic that is yours , not a TikTok aesthetic , not an aesthetic that you've copied off of another influencer , but something that's truly your own . My second point is detachment , but something that's truly your own . My second point is detachment .

Speaker 1 3:08

So if you're going to be the girl that you have always dreamed of , the woman that you will look up to , you need to make sure that you're your own individual person . You're not attached to the habits and routines of your partner , your best friend , your mom . You need to find an individualistic way of living . Calm . You need to find an individualistic way of living and , the end of the day , we're all attached to other people . You , you don't live alone . You're not in your own world . You're in the world with

Master Your Inner Artist

Speaker 1 3:33

everyone else .

Speaker 1 3:33

So it's a really tough one , but the way I found and then I'm genuinely I'm trying to build this habit is and no , I try and make sure that at least once a week I have something that I took from a book called the artist's way . It's not the artist's date . Okay , the book the artist's way . I cannot recommend it enough . Guys , this is one of the books that I feel like can really change your life . It's by Julia Cameron and it is a book that teaches you two main things , and these two things I'm going to teach you in this episode today , and the first one is the artist's date . For me , women have a lot of feminine energy . We have feminine and masculine , but at the end of the day , we are very creative creatures , and for you to really tap into that creativity , into your detachment , your individuality you're not stuck to other people and their routines and everything attachment , your individuality , you're not stuck to other people and their routines and everything you need to tap into your own artist , your own creative , your own feminine energy . Which basically means take yourself out on a date every week . What does this entail ? Literally , pick something you love to do , even if it's Pilates , a coffee date , whatever it is , I don't know what you like do that for an hour every week . It will change your life . The second thing is called morning pages . Morning pages is one of the main tips that I give to curate your life and become the girl of your dreams .

Speaker 1 5:00

You journal and I literally hated journaling . I injured my right hand in an accident a couple of years ago and ever since then I wasn't really writing much , to be honest with you . But this got me back to writing Pen paper . Write down three pages nonstop , matfakkarish , matfakkarish , khalis Ektebi your thoughts , your flow of thoughts . Okay , for three pages every single day and watch how you can organize your life . Everything becomes clear . You know what you need to do . You know what you don't need to do . It is an incredible tool and a miraculous tool that I personally didn't even believe in . But at the end of the day , let me tell you something . It was an uncomfortable thing and I thought journaling this morning was a big deal . Why should I write what I'm feeling ? What if someone finds it ? Honestly , guys , this is a major life hack to be the girl .

Speaker 1 5:53

My next one is waking up early . Okay , this one is a really tough one because it's something that I did for a very long time , religiously . I woke up at 5 am every day , read the 5 am club . I interviewed Robin Sharma during Egypt's entrepreneur awards in 2022 , and he's a brilliant man , very nice man , and he practices what he preaches . But I live in Cairo and Cairo is a city that never sleeps or whatever . Um , I'm excited . How am I expected to wake up at 5 am the next day ? It depends on your culture . It depends on the city that you live in and as Arabs in general , we have a very like late night staying routine . But my real tip for this is , instead of joining the 5 am club and every single day waking up early , you can have a day in the week where you need to get up early and set the tone for your week . This is my biggest piece of advice for the girl routine . It's not about every day and it will never be best . It's about once a week to set the tone , okay .

Speaker 1 6:54

So the next thing is the power of silence . This is major because it took me forever to master and I'm a yapper like I like talking , I like yapping , I'm a podcaster , this is my job , but sometimes silence is your biggest and most powerful tool . Fi aw et . Listen to the other conversations and just know when to zip it . Do not talk , don't try to fill the silence , don't try to add unnecessary comments , don't even try to entertain . This is what I'm trying to get to .

Speaker 1 7:30

Women fall into the trap of feeling like they need to be the entertainer , and you're not the entertainer . That's not your role . Your role is to be a strong and independent woman and let whoever else is around you entertain you . Ultimately , being the girl is not about being the center of attention . It's not about trying to be the smartest , best looking , whatever in the room . It's about holding your own and being comfortable with yourself . The biggest sign of being comfortable with yourself is being comfortable in silence . Sometimes you're sitting , you're chilling alone with people , with friends , with partners , whatever . You don't need to fill the silence . You can can just enjoy it . But God , this is a life changer and I feel the girls that are just talking , talking , talking , talking , and there's no point reminds me of that . Devil wears Prada reference , where she says you're doing this and you should be doing this , okay .

Embracing Authenticity and Boundaries

Speaker 1 8:23

Next point and I only have like two more is the idea of curating your life or editing your life , people and all . So this one is it goes back to a lot of things that I talk about regularly on my solos , actually , guys , but this is a point that I will harp on about forever which is Back to the boundaries and blocking episode , back to the leveling up episode . Essentially , it's the idea of making sure that you're surrounded by people who really inspire you and bring you up . My podcast it strikes a balance between getting to know someone as a person and getting to know their successes and their work , and I try to inspire you in a positive way . I don't like to deal with the negativity unless you absolutely have to , and certain people will bring you that . So my tip is خلوا بالكوا أوي أنتو بتعادوا كتير مع أمين . بتكلموا مع أمين .

Speaker 1 9:17

Who do you share your dreams with ? And this is something that , if you want to be the girl of your dreams , you're never going to get to if you are not careful of Okay . Want to be the girl of your dreams , you're never going to get to if you are not careful of okay for editing your life , curating your life , people and all is a really important one , okay , guys , my last point for being the girl is something that I mentioned in episode one , but I'm gonna come back to it which is I want you to sit back and relax and stop trying to be the fun girl , stop trying to entertain , stop trying to be the girl that's like so fun and all of this like , but god , this does not help anyone . If you are a tiktoker , okay , great , then that's your job to entertain . But in general , just be yourself , like that is the most essential and difficult thing to reach and so cliche to say .

Speaker 1 10:09

But if you're trying to be the fun girl , the smart girl , uh , the hot girl , a certain character , yani , whatever the character is , okay , you're not being yourself and essentially it shows so . In order to avoid all of this , I really think that consuming less content , first of all , is really important . Surrounding yourself with people that you actually feel inspired by or that support your dreams , and finally doing a date with yourself , figuring out who you really are and presenting that way . That is all the beginning of coming back to yourself , coming back to the girl of your dreams , rather than the girls that you look at on social media and you think I wish I could be her someday , or I want to be her someday , when that is actually not possible , never will be , because you're not her , you're you . So that's my episode on how to be the girl , part two . I hope you guys liked it and I'll see you guys in my next solo Bye .